The Musings of A: Storyteller. Dreamer. Explorer. Mentor. International Yoga Teacher. Human.
Know whatever you’re going through, it’s only temporary. Know that in the end our lives trend towards balance. Sometimes we have highs. Sometimes we have lows. That’s just how it goes. So what now?
Allow yourself to be sad or frustrated if that’s what you’re feeling. Don’t waste time justifying why you should or shouldn’t feel that way. Just feel it. Then let it out. Find some type of constructive, or at least harmless, outlet. Maybe you need to journal, exercise, meditate, walk the dog or just roll up the car windows and scream at the top of your lungs (yes, I’ve done that). Whatever you do, don’t hold it in.
Try not to wallow. At some point you have to let it go. Or be dragged. That doesn’t mean you just forget about whatever it is that upset you. It means when you start to think about it you can take a moment to acknowledge your feelings and then move on. Imagine the thought or feeling like a cloud floating through the sky. Then watch it blow away.
Take a moment to appreciate the things that are good. There’s still some things you can be grateful for. Make a mental list. Nothing is too small.
Then shift your focus to what’s ahead. Know that there truly are far better things ahead of us than any we leave behind. I can attest to this in my work and personal life so many times over. So many painful endings turned into amazing new beginnings that I never could’ve dreamed of. Don’t lose sight of where you’re headed. That’ll make it easier to remember that this is only your current circumstance, not your forever circumstance.
The human capacity to be jealous and think we need more than we have amazes me. I speak from experience. Right now I’m planning a speaking and teaching tour through New Zealand and Australia that will most likely lead to more yoga retreats and teaching across the South Pacific in some of my favorite places in the entire world. And yet I see things that other people are doing or what they have and sometimes I feel jealous.
Even as I’m literally watching my wildest dreams come true in front of my face at this very moment, I still go back to that old habit of feeling like there isn’t enough to go around. I go back to that mindset of scarcity and thinking that somehow the amount of success or happiness in the world is limited. As if someone else’s success or happiness somehow takes away from my own. It’s in these times when I have to stop and remind myself: “Comparison is the thief of joy.”
I try to pull the reins in and appreciate whatever it is that I have going for me right now. I acknowledge that I don’t really know anything about how great that person’s life is or isn’t, or whether they’re happy. And frankly, it’s not my job to compare or speculate. My job is to keep trying to live my most authentic life and know that as long as I follow my passion the rewards will come.